Smart Thoughts from Smart Thinkers

Siamak (Ash) Ashrafi
11 min readMar 25, 2022

Ideas for a better way to live

Mom’s House in Boston

Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery but today is MyStory.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

Steve Jobs (Founder — Apple & Pixar)

a crazy dream …

unbelievable, unimaginable and unattainable but if we make it will be unforgettable.

  • Let Death Take Us Not a lack of imagination for a better life

Please in the comments list the attributes if not provided — not sure where they come from?

The (7) Seven Ups

  1. Wake Up !! Decide to have a good day.

2. Dress Up!! The best way to dress up is to put on a smile. A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

3. Listen Up!! Say nice things and learn to listen. With two ears and one mouth.. it’s meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.

“He who guards his lips guards his soul.”

4. Stand Up!! . . . for what you believe in. Stand for something or you will fall for anything.

“Let us not be weary in doing good; for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good…”

5. Look Up !! . . . Keep yourself centered. Remember, you are important.

“I can do everything through God who strengthens me”.

6. Reach Up !! . . . for something higher.

Trust with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding.

7. Lift Up !! . . . your Prayers. “Do not worry about anything; instead PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING.”

It is called the present because everyday is a present

Franklin sought to cultivate his character by a plan of thirteen virtues, which he developed at age 20 (in 1726) and continued to practice in some form for the rest of his life. His autobiography lists his thirteen virtues as:

  1. “TEMPERANCE. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.”

2. “SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.”

3. “ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.”

4. “RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.”

5. “FRUGALITY. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.”

6. “INDUSTRY. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.”

7. “SINCERITY. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.”

8. “JUSTICE. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.”

9. “MODERATION. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.”

10. “CLEANLINESS. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.”

11. “TRANQUILLITY. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.”

12. “CHASTITY. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.”

13. “HUMILITY. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.”

Who Knows

Those who know not, and know not that they know not, are fools, shun them.
Those who know not and know they know not are children, teach them,
Those who know and know not that they know are asleep, wake them.
Those who know and know they know are wise, follow them.
- Traditional Sufi saying

I know I do not know and know that no one else knows
- Socrates

i know not whether i know not
- Bob my brother, PhD. Physics, PhD. History of Science.

When working on something very hard: This is unbelievable, unimaginable, truly unattainable but if it happens — making it unforgettable.

“Life is great but very heavy” — It is OK when life tries to bury us 10 ft under … It does not understands we are seeds.

Dale Carnegie — How to Win Friends and Influence People

Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Give honest and sincere appreciation.
Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two
Seven ways to make people like you

Become genuinely interested in other people.
Smile.
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
Make the other person feel important — and do it sincerely.
Show humility.

Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
Begin in a friendly way.
Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
Appeal to the nobler motives.
Dramatize your ideas.
Throw down a challenge.

Part Four
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

A leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and
behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
Let the other person save face.
Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be
“hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Good Advice (?)

We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.
Dream big
Earnest is better than hip
Don’t complain, just work harder
Treat the disease, not the symptom
Don’t obsess over what people think
Look for the best in everybody
Watch what people do, not what they say
Get people’s attention
Always say, `Thank you!’
All you have is what you bring with you
A bad apology is worse than no apology
Tell the truth
No job is beneath you
Never give up
Be a communitarian
All you have to do is ask. Don’t be afraid to appear ignorant.

Napolean Hill (Think and Grow)

Scroll 1: Definiteness of Purpose
Successful people move on their own initiative,
but they know where they are going before they start.

Scroll 2: Mastermind Alliance
No man can become a permanent success without taking
others along with him.

Scroll 3: Applied Faith
You can if you believe you can.

Scroll 4: Going the Extra Mile
The most successful people are those who serve the
greatest number of people.

Scroll 5: Pleasing Personality
It is essential that you develop a Pleasing Personality -
pleasing to yourself and others.

Scroll 6: Personal Initiative
Self-movtivation

Scroll 7: Positive Mental Attitude
Keep your mind on the things you want and off the things
you don’t want.

Scroll 8: Enthusiasm
To be enthusiastic — act enthusiastically

Scroll 9: Self-Discipline
Direct your thoughts, control your emotions
and ordain your destiny

Scroll 10: Accurate Thinking
Truth will be truth, regardless of a closed mind,
ignorance or the refusal to believe.

Scroll 11: Controlled Attention
Keep your mind on the things you want
and off the things you don’t want.

Scroll 12: Teamwork
Harmonious cooperation is a priceless asset which you can
acquire in proportion to your giving.

Scroll 13: Adversity and Defeat
Remember: every defeat, every disappointment and every adversity
carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit

Scroll 14: Creative Vision
The imagination is the workshop of the soul wherein are shaped
all plans for individual achievement.

Scroll 15: Maintenance of Sound Health
play, rest, laugh

Scroll 16: Budgeting Time and Money
Tell me how you use your space time and how you spend your money,
and I will tell you where and what you will be ten year
from now. 8 sleep , 8 work , 8 recreation

Scroll 17: Cosmic Habitforce
You are where you are and what you are because of your
established habits and thoughts and deeds.

Quotes

“If you think you can , or can’t, your right.” — Henry Ford

“Fear is the mind killer.” — Dune

“The beginning is a dangerous place. Off by one degree will result in miles off course over time” — Ash

“Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest.” — Mark Twain

“I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.” — Confucius

“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.” — Antoine de Saint Exupery

“Innovation By Subtraction” — QuikSliver

“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.” — Robert F. Kennedy

“Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up.” — Rev. Jesse Jackson

“Find a purpose in life so big it will challenge every capacity to be at your best.” — David O. McKay

“Even the longest journey begins with a single step” — Old Proverb

“The only sure way to fail is not to try” — Drew Massy

“Motivation is temporary, Inspiration is permanent” — ?

“Do not confuse activity with progress” — Coach Wood (UCLA)

“There has never been anything false about hope!” — President USA Barack Obama

“Make it work, Be Nice!” — Gunn

And she is led by love. The world moves for love. It kneels before it in awe.— M. Night Shyamalan

SUMMARY OF THE SEVEN HABITS

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Change starts from within, and highly effective people make the
decision to improve their lives through the things that they can
influence rather than by simply reacting to external forces.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Develop a principle-centered personal mission statement. Extend the
mission statement into long-term goals based on personal principles.

Habit 3: Put First Things First
Spend time doing what fits into your personal mission, observing the
proper balance between production and building production capacity.
Identify the key roles that you take on in life, and make time for
each of them.

Habit 4: Think Win/Win
Seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial. In
cases where a “win/win” deal cannot be achieved, accept the fact that
agreeing to make “no deal” may be the best alternative. In developing
an organizational culture, be sure to reward win/win behavior among
employees and avoid inadvertantly rewarding win/lose behavior.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
First seek to understand the other person, and only then try to be
understood. Stephen Covey presents this habit as the most important
principle of interpersonal relations. Effective listening is not
simply echoing what the other person has said through the lens of
one’s own experience. Rather, it is putting oneself in the perspective
of the other person, listening emphatically for both feeling and
meaning.

Habit G: Synergize
Through trustful communication, find ways to leverage individual
differences to create a whole that is greater than the sum of the
parts. Through mutual trust and understanding, one often can solve
conflicts and find a better solution than would have been obtained
through either person’s own solution.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Take time out from production to build production capacity through
personal renewal of the physical, mental, social/emotional, and
spiritual dimensions. Maintain a balance among these dimensions.

Points from Mark Cuban

1. Time is more valuable than money
2. Random Acts of kindness
3. No Balls, No Babies
4. Work Hard, Play Hard
5. Don’t let fear be a roadblock
6. Expect the unexpected, and always be ready
7. It’s Ok to yell and be yelled at
8. Everybody gets down, the key is how soon you get back up
9. It’s not if the glass is half empty, or half full, it’s who is pouring the water
10. It’s not in the dreaming, it’s in the doing
11. Pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered
12. You only have to be right once

The good points

Atul Gawande — See if you can keep the conversation going.
My Rule #1 Ask an unscripted question
My Rule #2 Don’t whine
My Rule #3 Count something
My Rule #4 Write something

“The invention of a mechanism for the systematic publication of fragments of scientific work may well have been the key event in the history of modern science.” — The physician and poet Lewis Thomas

My Rule #5 my final rule for a good life in medicine, is: Change
Nonetheless, make yourself an early adopter

Don’t let yourself be. Find something new to try, something to change. Count how often it succeeds and how often it doesn’t. Write about it. Ask a patient or a colleague what they think about it.

Better three sections: Diligence, Doing Right and Ingenuity

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;Enjoying one moment at a time;Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen. — Reinhold Niebuhr

  • Think, Believe, Achieve.
  • Trust God, Take it easy, Do Not Sell Yourself Short.
  • Stay True, Stay Foolish, Stay Hungry. — Steve Jobs
  • Feels Right, Learn Lessons, Give Something Back.

Just some thoughts about building stuff.

1) Build on common sense

2) Determination / perseverance

3) sense of urgency

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We are “the stories” we tell ourself we are …

If we say “we are old”, then we are old.

If we say “we are young”, then we are young.

let death take us not a lack of imagination or the courage to build a better life

The Impossible Task — Do it … until you become it.

one person told me … just work on what you want to be … and over time you will become it.

Take it easy — Have Fun :-) Do not sell yourself short Listen to the Lord

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1) Have Faith

2) Appreciate your family and friends

3) Focus

4) Live everyday to the fullest

5) Enjoy nature

Books

Holy Bible (my favorite)

Be honest, Be nice and Be True to find God’s Speed. Follow Christ. Be grateful.

An Uncommon Way To Wealth
As a Man Thinketh
The Art of War
The Art of Worldly Wisdom
The Four Laws of Debt Free Prosperity
Full Faith and Credit
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Meditations
The New Machiavelli (The Art of Politics in Business)
Power (The 48 laws)
Reminiscences of a Stock Operator
Ten Theories of Human Nature
Think and Grow Rich
Traditions of Wealth

A Random Walk Down Wall Street: The Time-Tested Strategy for Successful Investing

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